are secrets known to only a small minority of people, such as international
spies, movie stars and white house aides. I believe that until now
to only a handful extraordinary men and women throughout history have
understood all of the secrets I’m about to explain in this
book. And these few were invariably among the most powerful individuals
their times, with kingdoms, riches and cultural treasures at their
An amazing new world
of empowerment is about to open up before you. This book will show
you the way into that world, by teaching
you how to recognize and correct
some simple mistakes you may be making in how you relate to others.
people make fundamental mistakes when they start out in a relationship.
They think, “All I have to do is be nice, loving and kind, and
be loved and rewarded.” They couldn’t be more wrong.
people do you know who are the casualties of love? People who have
had their hearts broken, been taken advantage of, abused, lied to,
cheated on? Wasn’t
it always the nicest people that this happened to? Think about the
good people you know whose lives were destroyed, whose families were
apart, who may
have been driven to bankruptcy, madness or suicide, all on account
of the selfish cruelty of a lover or spouse. Did their being nice make
successful? Of course not. It only made them more likely to get hurt.
In fact my research suggests that by being too nice, they were
literally asking to get
After 28 years of
research as a doctoral student at the world famous School of
Psychology at Ardnox University, I have at last completed
what I believe
the first methodological system for creating a stable happy life
within the context of romantic human relationships. Within these pages
the results of my toil
at the Ardnox School.
Dear Reader, you
will never know, and it is best that you never have to know, the torment,
the anguish, the excruciating
For I have
suffered, and even more than I, the subjects upon whom my experiments
were performed have suffered, have truly been ennobled by their
the name of science.
For without them, these ground-breaking experiments in relationship
dynamics could never have occurred within a laboratory setting.
the notebook after notebook of painstaking data that I recorded
have been collected.
From the failures of the past are the successes of the future made,
and this book is a testament to that, perhaps as no other has ever
That data and those
results have been rendered down, much like crude tallow is transformed
into heart shaped scented soaps, into
of How To Train A Lover In Five Easy Steps. These five principles
correspond to the five simple steps which are all you need to
know to free your
life from the pain and suffering of failed relationships.
revolutionary five step method I’ve devised has met with some
criticism, with some stubborn resistance from the academic establishment.
I admit that in
some respects it flies in the face of everything you’ve
ever been told about healthy relationships. But I have come
to believe, through my research,
that everything you’ve ever been told is dead
If the prevailing
theories are correct, then why are there still so many broken dreams
and ruined lives in the world of
I have discovered the answer to that eternal question. This
put an end to broken dreams and ruined lives. Maybe not for
everyone, but certainly
for you, dear Reader. Starting right now, and forever.
you to take a deep breath right now, close your eyes, and make a
promise to yourself. Say to yourself, “I will never be hurt in
a relationship again. From this day forth I will be in charge of my
life, in charge
of my feelings,
and in charge of my relationships. From this day forward,
no more being nice.”
There, now doesn’t
that feel better? Was that so hard?
You are now starting
a new life and a new way of relating
to others, and you will immediately begin to experience
of freedom and power.
You may even find it a little bit frightening. But
remember, you don’t
have to go it alone. I’ll be right there every
step of the way to guide you. Follow the five easy
steps outlined in this book, and get ready for a feeling
of power over your destiny. Get ready for a life you
never dreamed possible. Get ready for love – finally – on
Dr. Rhonda Chaillemavia,
November 30, 2004